You compare yourself and your husband to other people who seem happy in their marriage, and in your estimation you both fall short. When he’s unhappy, or distant with you, you sometimes think it’s your fault, thinking “I f i’d only said that differently, paid more attention to him, was somehow BETTER, THEN he’d be happier, more loving. you know you're holding back your love, not being the loving person you know you really are. You feel guilty about some of the ways you behave: like when you’re critical of him, or when you act touchy or insinuate that he's not a good husband –after all, he’s the person you most want to love in the world. Of course, then he gets defensive or tells you he feels he can’t do much right in your eyes, or has to walk on eggshells around you.ĭeep down you also feel disappointed in yourself. You complain about these things to him, or just withdraw and give a cold shoulder. (Because, even though you hate to admit it, a little part of you relies on him to help you feel good about yourself.)
#Treasured conversations how to#
You find yourself resenting him for not being more attentive, not initiating intimate conversations more, or knowing how to support you really well emotionally. Sometimes it's hard to trust that he really loves you. You feel disenchanted, disappointed in your marriage, like some joy, aliveness, connection and playfulness has become inaccessible–and you long for it to come back alive…
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